Sunday, April 09, 2006

When was the first time you...: Sunday Night

When was the first time you realized your parents didn't know it all (i.e. made a bad/wrong decision, expressed doubt, acted "human")?

The first time I realized that my parents might not have all the right answers was about the time I was in fifth grade. My mother, father and I were out shopping one day and we ran into some family friends. I was impatient to move on, but my parents were discussing various things and one of the friends asked how the "move and house hunt was going." I looked at my parents in confusion and asked what was going on and they said that we would talk about it later. I got really upset and stalked off while they finished their conversation. Long story short, it turned out that my father was offered a promotion and we were supposed to move from Nashville to Charlotte, NC over the summer. They had known for months and had never said anything because they thought I was going to be upset. Umm, yeah, I was. The end of this story is that my parents never said they were sorry and never thought they had done anything wrong. We didn't end up moving and I wasn't forced to leave my friends, but I never forgot that my parents were planning a whole new life for us and never mentioned it to me. I know it seems like a small thing, but it really made me doubt their honesty. Generally, I trusted my parents, but after this incident things were different. Sometimes the small things leave long memories.

7 comments:

BabyMakes3 said...

you know, it's funny, i know my parents make wrong decisions at times, but it seems like i still hold them on a pedestal. i can't come up with any specific instances. i wish i could have such selective amnesia with everyone.

K8E said...

Hmm...I still consider my mom to be all knowing. My dad on the other hand, well, he's my Dad, I love him :o), but sometimes I just have to shake my head and wonder at his thought process.

Susie said...

Well, there was a moment in my past (I was about 15) when I realized that my mom made a mistake in judgment with me. I won't go into it too much, but it had to do with a teacher acting inappropriately with me. I didn't know how to talk about it, she didn't know how to talk about it, and, eventually, we never brought it up again. The thing is, I think she was so upset and panicked about something like that happening to me and I was not verbally prepared to talk about it. So, seeing as how things like that were not on the news every five minutes, and there was no dialogue I was familiar with in trying to talk about it (and the same for my mom), it left me feeling angry and unprotected. Coming at it years later, I don't feel that way anymore. But, the experience does make me think about how I might handle it with my own kids.

Sarah said...

I almost hate to say this, but I still generally think that my parents have all the answers. I can't come up with anything that stands out as "that time when they screwed up."

katie g. said...

Just to clarify, I still think my mother and father were really smart people who generally made great decisions, but I realize they weren't perfect. Sometimes it is startling to realize things like that.

Susie said...

me, too!

BabyMakes3 said...

isn't it funny how much trouble we have seeing our parents in a negative light? it's like by saying something bad about them, we're dishonoring them or something. i hope my kid never remembers my mistakes.